Understanding Male Behavior on Dating Sites
As soon as you arrive on a dating site, you find yourself in a mosaic of charming smiles and posed photos. The guys there select their pictures as if for a movie casting, always trying to present themselves in their best light. But beware, just because the cover is nice doesn’t mean the story is interesting.
Profiles Under the Microscope
Descriptions are where you see the real from the fake. A guy who carefully crafts his intro with a touch of humor without bragging can be a good sign.
But if you come across clichés like “I’m looking for my other half” or “ready to embark on the adventure of love,” beware. It smells like copy-pasting!
Start the Chat, But Keep Your Eyes Open!
When you move on to the first messages, it’s the moment of truth. The first exchanged words will give you an idea of what to expect.
A guy who jumps straight into plans for the future or who flirts too heavily can be a red flag. Keep your antennas up to catch the real intentions behind the emojis and the “hi, how are you?” messages.
The Types You Will Surely Encounter
The Doomed Poet
Imagine a guy who throws Baudelaire at you in a pick-up line. Black and white photos, a brooding gaze, and maybe a stylish cigarette between his lips. Super charming, right? But beware!
This smooth talker could also be as fragile as glass. A heart that can’t survive the first headwind. If you’re looking for something solid, keep scrolling.
Mr. Muscle
Here he is, the gym king, who never misses an opportunity to show off his rock-hard abs. Nine out of ten photos, he’s there, shirtless, making his pecs shine.
Not into counting hours between dumbbells? Then maybe he and you won’t last long.
The Adventurer
Every photo tells an epic tale: sometimes at the top of a mountain, sometimes diving with sharks. It makes you want to live life to the fullest, but hey, make sure he can also appreciate lazy Sundays in front of a series.
The Hunk
Impeccable photos, dazzling smile, the look of a movie star. This guy has everything of the modern-day prince charming. But be careful, this modern-day Don Juan might just be here for the hunt, not to find his princess.
The Artist
Always with a guitar or a paintbrush in hand, he vibes to the rhythm of exhibitions and travels. His profile screams “Seize the day!” But behind his cool photos and enviable hobbies, this guy might be looking to avoid any form of commitment. Fun for an evening, but what about after?
The Party Guy
If it’s a party you’re looking for, he’s your man. Glass in hand in every photo, he lives the night and sleeps during the day. But if you prefer brunch at sunrise rather than after-hours parties, he might not be your ideal match.
The Friend Seeker
His profile is clear; he’s here for the fun, no strings attached. Honest, sure, but if you’re looking for love with a capital A, you’d be better off moving along.
Mr. Muscles
Not a single photo where his bulging muscles aren’t shown off. But if your thing is more debating the latest bestseller than the latest record at the gym, maybe you’re not on the same team.
What Men Think (Advice for Women)
Romain:
- Age: 45 years
- Profession: Architect
- Experience on dating sites: Registered for four years, using Tinder and Bumble
What he likes:
“I appreciate profiles that show a genuine interest in culture and art, without pretension. A woman who can talk about her passions enthusiastically is captivating. I love exchanges where personality clearly comes through.”
What he doesn’t like:
“Profiles that are too vague or generic repel me. I avoid descriptions that list only adjectives like ‘nice, fun, adventurous’ without context. It lacks substance.”
First Date:
What he likes:
“Authenticity and a good sense of humor. If she is herself and is open and honest, it creates a real connection. A good balance between talking and listening is also crucial.”
What he doesn’t like:
“I can’t stand excessive delays without warning. It gives the impression that the other person’s time is less valuable. And superficial discussions or those too focused on material things also disappoint me.”
Maxime:
- Age: 22 years
- Profession: Entrepreneur
- Experience on dating sites: Active user of Happn and OkCupid for two years
Ads, Virtual Exchanges:
What he likes:
“Ads that are direct and honest. A woman who knows what she wants and expresses it clearly instantly attracts me. Intelligence and creativity in the way of communicating are very appealing.”
What he doesn’t like:
“Profiles that place too much emphasis on physical appearances or material possessions. It makes me feel there won’t be any depth in our interaction.”
First Date:
What he likes:
“Spontaneity and the ability to laugh together. A woman who suggests an unusual activity for a first date earns a lot of points with me.”
What he doesn’t like:
“Discussions that revolve around the ex or comparisons with other relationships. It shows that one isn’t really ready to move forward.”
Théo:
- Age: 21 years
- Profession: Computer Engineer
- Experience on dating sites: Former user of Adopteunmec and Meetic.
Ads, Virtual Exchanges:
What he likes:
“Clarity and precision in profiles. A woman who clearly articulates what she wants from life and her relationships is very attractive. I also admire independence and self-confidence.”
What he doesn’t like:
“Profiles that are too filled with selfies or self-promotion. It leaves little room for true mutual discovery.”
First Date:
What he likes:
“When she shows interest in my passions and shares hers. It’s the foundation of a lasting connection.”
What he doesn’t like:
“A lack of openness to new experiences or reluctance to step out of her comfort zone. It can quickly limit the relationship.”
